The Five Freedoms

1. To see and hear what is here, instead of what should be, was, or will be.
2. To say what one feels and thinks instead of what one should.
3. To feel what one feels, instead of what one ought.
4. To ask for what one wants, instead of always waiting for permission.
5. To take risks in one's own behalf, instead of choosing only to be “secure” and not rocking the boat.

Virginia Satir